Late Night Thoughts of a Hopeless Romantic?

Relationships suck, sometimes…

I want to share a completely honest view that I have towards relationships. I am 22 years old, have only been in one serious relationship in my life and that hardly qualifies me as any type of expert but it does allow me to have some sort of an opinion on the matter. I have been in a relationship for the past three and a half years and God above knows that it is a constant struggle. Think about it, you now are a “unit” but still acting as two separate entities. Whenever you get invited anywhere by anyone it is now an invitation that automatically includes your significant other. On the other hand you find yourself asking for the plus one when the host or hostess does not end the conversation with “oh, bring your boy/girlfriend!” It’s comforting to have a built in security blanket, someone who is supposed to always take your side and comfort you in any situation. That’s great, right? OF COURSE IT IS! I know that I walk a little bit taller having him by my side. But, you don’t want to loose yourself within the relationship either and that is where the “separate but one” theory comes into effect. It’s hard trying not to melt into the other person and forget who you are in the process. There is also a level that I believe every person individually has to reach in order to commit themselves 100% to another person. Selfishness should turn to selflessness, lust turns into love, dreams turn into plans and plans in turn result in action. Evaluate yourself and if those results aren’t in your mindset, then neither will a healthy relationship. 

I want to specifically talk about what I know and that is my own relationship. My boyfriend, Michael, is the best friend that I have ever had. Continue reading

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Commuting can be rough. Unbelievably, painstakingly rough. Especially when having to make it into midtown in an hour for 8:30 am and you need an hour and a half to get there. Then you add in the other commuters going through the same struggles as you and are somehow making your struggle even worse. Yea. Commuting is rough. This post has a positive spin, just wait for it.

I was going through the motions, as I do every Friday. I was hurrying off the bus Continue reading

A Never Ending Controversy

So i’m sure you all have gotten wind of the “controversial” Cheerios commercial that has been all over TV and the internet lately. A white woman and a black man? how could that be!?
Well here is some news for you radical die hard racists out here. People are people always have been and always will be. The color of a person’s skin should never make them better than another. I am so tired of this world and our lack of tolerance. If I fall in love with a white man as oppose to a black man, are they not both men? Two human beings that I will judge by the content of their characters rather than the color of their skin.
When I watched this video and the reaction from these children, it warmed my heart. Children are the most outspoken, honest and innocent people in this world and for them to not see anything wrong with this relationship should show us just how irrational we as adults are. When I see interracial relationships no matter Black, White, Hispanic, Asian, Gays, Lesbians or Straight or whatever I applaud you for having the courage to show the world what true love can consist of.

Simple Sunday

 

There has been a lot of feelings circulating in me for the past few days as well as circulating throughout the world. I won’t get to heavy because I’m not trying to be that depressing asshole that makes everyone else depressed. I just have been so sad with our world lately. I shed tears for those who have lost someone and I shed tears for the world that we live in. 

I wanted Zimmerman put away, I honestly did. I thought the case was a no brainer but apparently I was wrong? Well according to the jury we all were. We have to remember though Zimmerman is a wannabe cop who in my own opinion was looking for trouble that night, he was not the first person to take a life. Lives are being taken everyday from wars, genocides, diseases, famine and so much more. I understand that this case has been broadcasted all over the world we can not forget the other members of our population who are suffering. We focus in on the media and what they are saying because it is constantly being force fed to us on multiple social platforms but we neglect the issues that are pushed aside because we are ignorant to them. I will not sit hear and preach on matters that I do not know all the facts about but I do know that there is plenty happening out here that we ignore. We can all get on facebook, instagram and twitter and drop knowledge in 140 characters but really how much do we know? 

I fear for us, I truly and honestly do. I dream for a world that will know peace but I know that that is also very wishful thinking. We have to help ourselves before we can help others.

“The purpose of life is not to be happy. It is to be useful, to be honorable, to be compassionate, to have it make some difference that you have lived and lived well.” 
― Ralph Waldo Emerson

Sensical Contradictions

They say “only the strong survive” and “only the meek shall inherit the earth”, two very powerful statements in my opinion. So who is it going to be? Who is going to be the ultimate winner in this situation, who is going to win it all?

Does this ever cross your mind?

Think about it this way, in one direction you are being pulled to be assertive and forced to put yourself out there for the whole world to see because if you don’t you will be left behind and forgotten, simple facts of life (right?). You essentially put on a show, using yourself for the entertainment of others because if people are laughing with you then there is sure as hell no time to laugh at you. No one wants to be laughed at no matter how old we are, this playground mentality sticks with us throughout our lives. You gotta be strong, show no fear and hide who you truly are because your trying to make it in this world. Just like the rest of us you are trying to make something of yourself and yourself is NOT weak, that is not who you are. You are strong and you will survive at all costs.

but how about this..

Your quite. You just want to get by, unscathed and under the radar. Does that make you any less of a person? Or does that just make you a different type of person? There is no need to make small talk or to tell a funny joke to a group of your peers, cause face it your just not that funny and your not trying to be. You don’t want to call attention to yourself  there is no need for that. Your work is always done on time and it’s good, really good. So your personality isn’t as bright and shiny but your work now, that speaks for itself! You don’t consider yourself “weak” per se but your quite and reserved and that is how you like it, you’ll survive…right?

So how does one navigate through situations like this, what determines one personality better than the other? I have come across many of these two types of people in my life. Sometimes that super loud and annoyingly obnoxious person is just that and sometimes there is depth under all that exuded confidence. The extremely quite girl in your class can someday become one of your best friends or maybe you’ll never notice them standing there. The point is, don’t ever rule anyone out. You never know who will enter your life and make that lasting impact that you have been waiting for. 

Yes. The strong will survive and in turn as will the meek so then in my eyes they both shall inherit the earth.

Simple Sunday: NYC Pride 2013!

In honor of NYC Pride parade that is happening in Manhattan today I feel like this Simple Sunday is dedicated to all you fabulous homosexuals! I am so heartbroken that I cannot go considering I have to be at work at 7:30 am! But I know for a fact that everyone in attendance will live it up one hundred percent!

This is a time of change and acceptance that is a long time coming, it’s time for the world to change and spread love. I cannot stress this enough! This world is a beautiful place and we are all beautiful people we should embrace one another, open our hearts as well as our eyes.

This is one of my all time favorite songs. It was written and performed by two heterosexual men who 100% support our gay community. This is refreshing to say the least.

Adolescent Peer Pressure & Individualistic Struggles

Peer pressure exists, no one can tell me otherwise. Yes we are all our own person and we should not let the actions of others effect the actions of our own free will, don’t get me wrong I get that. But, just think back a little bit back to high school when you told your parents that you were sleeping over “Stacy’s” house but in actuality you were headed to that party on the other side of town. You and your friends were invincible, you were young and too cool to have any cares other than if the cute football players would be there and of course, they were. They always were. 

I remember my first drink. I was 15 and it was my best friend’s first “real” party. Her parents had allowed her to invite practically the whole school over to their house. Her older brother and his burnout friends were present, the popular kids, the not so popular kids almost everyone was in attendance and I felt grown up, I felt in some strange way more alive than I had ever felt. I watched movies and read books about being young and crazy and I wanted that life, I wanted a life like the characters in the books I chose from the ‘young adult’ novels section in Barnes & Noble. Those kids had it all and I was itching to be one of them.  

I’m not sure how it happened but at some point during the night I was handed my first red solo cup (a pivoting moment in a teenagers life). I gave the cup a once over and ignored the fact that the smell of the brown liquid inside made me want to vomit right on the spot. Instead of handing the cup back to the cute soccer player that had handed it to me, I looked around at the faces that were all focusing in on me, waiting for my first sip or rather chug of that beer and thought ‘I am with my friends. Right?’  Wasn’t I among my friends? These people that I grew up with that I was about to take my first drink with, but something felt uneasy even as far as unsettling.  My mother always taught me that I didn’t have to do anything I didn’t want to and that no one could force me, but at that moment I was being forced. I was being forced by society, by the young adult section of Barnes & Noble, and by my “friends” to do something that at that point did not want to do but I had to do. I had to take that drink because that drink would define the next four years of my life, that drink would solidify my invitation to many parties to come. I drank it all, chugged it even and when I had had the last drop I looked into the faces of my peers all smiling and laughing all becoming tipsier by the minute. I looked at the faces of my friends and held my cup out for a refill.

I am not saying that I had no say in the matter but the thoughts of others do affect our actions and our decisions, sad but very true. No matter how much we scream individualism and crave our own personal identities we are influenced by everyone around us. Our families, friends, society all play a role in who we are. I know who I am and I am happy with myself but we can not ignore the world around us. We all want to be go-getters, trendsetters and leaders of the pack but we all look to something or someone to gain our confidence & to model ourselves after. There is nothing wrong with this but we have to acknowledge it, it’s there and it isn’t going away. Now a days I have figured out who I am and try to be more mindful of my own actions but I will never deny the fact that I do look for approval or reassurance, and you know what? That’s OK.

 

Let’s Get Reacquainted with the World

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Corey, Topanga, Shawn, Eric, and none other than MR. FEENY. I am certain that we can all recollect those names from our childhood. Boy Meets World, a show that we grew up with, characters that became our friends. I know that I myself pretended that I was sitting at dinner with the Matthews, in Mr. Feeny’s homeroom class or accompanying them on their many adventures. I learned a lot of life lessons from Boy Meets World and that is why i’m so happy that the sequel series ‘Girl Meets World’ has officially been given the OK and will air on The Disney Channel Network sometime this year.

Rowan Blanchard plays Riley, Cory and Topanga’s daughter in the upcoming spin off series Girl Meets World. The casting is impeccable if you ask me!

The new show will follow Cory and Topanga’s daughter Riley in her tweendom as she navigates through her adolescence, just as her parents did many years before. Ben Savage and Danielle Fishel will reprise their roles Cory and Topanga in the new series as well as William Daniels as Mr. Feeny. The show will spotlight the fresh faces of Rowan Blanchard and Sabrina Carpenter as Riley and her best friend Maya, respectively.

I don’t know about you guys but I have to see this new show and take a trip down memory lane, maybe a Boy Meets World marathon is in order!

 

Simple Sunday: Father’s Day Edition

I know, I know a little late but yesterday was a pretty busy day for me! So as you all know yesterday was Father’s Day and it was a beautiful day, I just hope that all the fathers out there got to enjoy their special day. 

My relationship with my dad has always been a rocky one. We don’t always see eye to eye and we tend to end up disagreeing, a lot but he’s my dad and my hero. My dad has always been a pretty tough cookie, demeanor wise I am my mother’s daughter. I avoid confrontation, wear my heart on my sleeve and spread love at all costs whereas my dad on the other hand has always been a bit rougher around the edges. As I grow older I can only hope for our bond to become stronger, I love my dad and all I want is for us to build a better connection. He is a great man, he never once turned his back on me and I know that no matter what happens he will always be in my corner. This Father’s Day he deserves the world and I will be forever grateful for his love and I am so unbelievably happy to be able to call him my dad.

Imagelove you, popsickle!

 

My Summer Bucket List

Summer bucket lists are a must. Don’t ask me why, they just are. I mean you have 3 to 4 months of pure nothingness that make up your days so why not partake in memorable experiences to last a lifetime? I have a few things that I would love to do this summer, so i’ll list them here and you guys let me know what your summer bucket lists are.

1. Shakespeare in the Park

A very much loved tradition that takes place in the heart of Manhattan in no other than Central Park..the park of ALL parks. The play takes place in the Delacorte Theater in the park and tickets are get this, FREE!

2. Take a Road Trip to Somewhere I Have Never Been 

This is probably an ever present subject on bucket lists everywhere but this summer I am making it happen. America is a beautiful place in its own right and I do believe it is time that I explore it for my own, or with my closest friends!

road trip happy girl free spirit

3. Find a New Hobby

I have always loved writing and reading and crafting but maybe its time I find a new niche. Maybe running, ballroom dancing, water polo, fencing, hula hooping! Whatever I decide the possibilities are endless, I could literally do anything if I set my mind to it…when I find my new hobby i’ll be sure to keep you posted.

4. Make New Friends

I love the friends I have now, but meeting new people is always fun and exciting. I want to find people that I never thought I would befriend and build lasting relationships.

5. Create and Finish a Scavenger Hunt

So this is something I wanted to do in High School but it never came through. A giant scavenger hunt throughout Manhattan would probably be the most fun ever! Think of all the things that could be on the list. Spending a day in the city doing crazy, fun, reckless things with my friends sounds like a perfect summer day to me!

6. Stay Out All Night

Think about watching the sunset with your friends and special someone then spending that night laughing and drinking by a bonfire, sharing stories and learning so much more about the people you hold dear, not realizing that the night is slipping away from you but you don’t care because your exactly where you want to be. I want to experience one of those nights, that turn into mornings, nights where you watch the sun set and see it rise the next day.

7. Learn How to Cook

Maybe go to a cooking class, or just watch some Youtube videos but this summer I want to become a gourmet chef 😉

8. Volunteer

Whether a homeless shelter, a foster home, or an animal hospital this summer I want to give back to my community and make the world a better place one tiny step at a time.

9. GIANT WATER BALLOON FIGHT

Need I say more?

10. Make a Summer Scrapbook

I want to document all the amazing things that I do this summer so I can always look back and reminisce. I will use this book as a reference for all the summers in the future so I can do even better every time!

 

This is a very short list and I am sure I will be adding to it as the summer progresses, maybe you guys could give me some feedback on your summers and I can get some even cooler ideas! 

 

…What’s yours?